3 self help books that actually helped!

Gotta be honest – this list initially had 7 self-help book titles.

I thought long and hard about the ones that I actually enjoyed, were still relevant and practical.

My list below has life, love and creativity covered for you.

Presenting…the 3 books that changed me.

Don’t Sweat the small stuff (and it’s all small stuff) by Richard Carlson

I read this first when I was in my early teens, and then came back to it again in my mid 20s because it had just stayed with me.

You will say but it’s all common sense, and yes it is – then why aren’t we practising it? Why aren’t we kinder to each other and always feeling the need to correct the other person and be “right”?

It’s almost like taking a Gandhi like approach to life.

This book also talks about the pressure we put on ourselves of keeping up with the Jones’ and remind us that once we tick something off on our list, the next thing will be there. So just slow down and enjoy what ever it is you are doing rather than being in a race with yourself.

Recommended for those of you who are being hard on your selves. Also a great gift for someone who has too much going on.

He’s Just Not That Into You by Greg Behrendt

True story – I was 18 and heartbroken for almost 2 years. That’s a long time to be  crying into tubs of ice-cream when you are 20, waiting for a silly, inconsiderate boy who was also too young to know any better to come back and realise that he’s in love with you.

I picked up this book and I slowly started thinking differently. He’s not into me. I’m not ok now but I will be. You shouldn’t put up with crap, and deserve to be treated better than that. You shouldn’t give any boy more priority than you would give your friends. Plus the longer you cry over the guy who isn’t even thinking about you, the more distracted you are from actually LIVING your life.

I could go on and on with this one but I won’t. Read it. And while you’re at it read It’s called a break-up because it’s broken and then It’s just a f!@#$% date. The latter help me be Miss Cool, Calm and Collected when Mr Right eventually came along. Poor little sucker :p

I recommend the read over the movie. The movie is ok if you only have eyes for Mr Bradley Cooper.

Recommended for the #foreversingle thinking gals. And it’s totally ok to gift this one as well. I have gifted many copies of “It’s a called a break-up because it’s broken” to my friends. Someone had to tell them 😛

Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert

Every blogger should read this. And yeah I mean you.

We all are passionate about something. Whether it’s reading, writing, make-up or cars…you get the idea.

This book by Elizabeth Gilbert talks about her struggles with picking up a pen and finding inspiration to sometimes write. It’s about persistence.

One thing that really stayed with me is say you loved writing. You loved writing passionately. Passionately like as though you are having an affair. If you were having an affair with writing, you would make time for it no matter what. It gives you that thrill. You’ll make excuses to go out and write. So write passionately. Treat it like a lover. (but please don’t have ACTUAL affairs. So uncool.)

This is the no-excuses approach to letting your creative juices flow.

Recommend for you. It will make you want to type away, pull out that paint brush or maybe even get crafty.

Have you read any of the above? Let me know if you are able to recommend any self-help books that have inspired you!

*featured image courtesy of Unsplash. Photographer  Alisa Anton

**thanks to The Crimson Cardigan for the link back.

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14 thoughts on “3 self help books that actually helped!

  1. Thanks for these recommendations! I’ve only read the second one – at around the same age as you did – and it was so helpful! I’ve bought ‘Big Magic’ about 6 months ago but haven’t opened it yet… I might just do that now that I’ve seen your helpful post! 🙂

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  2. He’s just not that into you was a movie right? I didn’t know it was also a book. I haven’t read any books in a while, but I was looking into that book by Tina Fey called Bossy Pants. Since I’m on a #girlboss kind of kick right now, I wanted to see if it will inspire me to go out there and get it. Hopefully yes! Thank you for sharing!

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  3. Hmm Big Magic sounds interesting! I haven’t read any of your list – I’ve heard of both “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” and “He’s Just Not That Into You” but neither never appealed to me. Because I feel like neither are issues I dealt with… maybe I’m the odd one but I never suffered romantic heartbreak?


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